Then James also said his own experience to help him to deal with such issues more calmly . "I always believe that a friend told me the words , experience is the best teacher , when you've been through a lot of things you will learn a lesson , you will know how to deal with the next time you encounter such a when you have a better case preparation and handling of the past , I have experienced the failure , and then continue to come out from the failure , until my mind stronger, it is more able to define who you are than all men . "